The source of happiness comes from three things in life, for every single person. Those three things are pleasure, passion and purpose.
Happiness derived from pleasure is the least lasting. I think the reason for that is because when we rely on happiness from pleasure, as soon as the thing we are getting pleasure from is gone, so is the happiness. So if you are happy eating junk food, even though you know its bad for you, as soon as the food is gone, so is the happiness. That’s probably why your hunger is never truly fulfilled from the bad food. Or a certain substance is the major source of happiness for you, then you will become an addict of the substance. Soon you will become dependent on the pleasure as a source of happiness.
The second form of happiness comes from passion, this is also not as long lasting. But it is a step in the right direction. This is because if fuels the source of ultimate happiness.
The ultimate source of happiness is purpose. When you have a reason to wake up in the morning, or your goals are powered by a big why, that is going to bring you the most amount of happiness. People living life with a purpose are going to be deeply fulfilled. A good example is Mike Krzyzewski, basketball coach at Duke University. He has won 3 NCAA championships, 2 gold medals as the coach of the USA team and the all time most winningest coach in College ball. You would think his purpose is to win right? Nope.
“I am not a basketball coach. I am a leader who coaches basketball. I have three goals for all my players—to make them a good student, a good citizen, and a good person, that is my purpose.”
Living with purpose means you are living the golden third life.
Your future depends on this model. To be a member of the Golden Third you need the triangle of success. The triangle of success that I have created can be implemented into any aspect of your life and you can experience great success. It does not matter how big the challenge or problem you are facing, you will be very surprised on how easily it works.
The foundation of the triangle is the vision you have of your future. A boat will never leave a dock without knowing the destination. Our subconscious brain works in the same manner. Our subconscious is responsible for the direction of our life. You can program your subconscious mind to direct you in whichever way you like. However, the language of the subconscious is imagery. You must create a very vivid vision in your mind’s eye. Furthermore, you have to continuously remind yourself of this vision. Write it on paper. Successful people write their goals over and over again, because you must give your vision attention on a daily basis. Even the biggest and successful corporations have a vision/mission statement. They know that their vision can motivate and inspire their employees.
“Every minute you spend in planning saves 10 minutes in execution; this gives you a 1,000 percent Return on Energy!” Brian Tracy
Once you create a vision, you need to create a plan that you believe will help achieve the goal/vision. Brain storming or writing a long list of ideas will allow your subconscious mind to imagine that your vision is possible. Steve Chandler also agrees with this idea. He says one hour of planning saves three in execution. Definitely plan your work, because if you don’t, you will end up spending majority of your time reacting to the mistakes you will make.
Without action nothing is possible. Once you have the ideas powered by a big vision, you will automatically become confident enough to follow through with the plan. Your success rate will also go through the roof. It will feel as if your goal is pulling you towards itself. There is no way of completing your task without meeting rejection or failure. It is not failure, if you learn from it.
I guarantee that you will succeed in achieving any goal or creating your vision. A lot of successful people are already using these techniques, but they may be doing it subconsciously.
After you set your goal and know what you want to do, whats next? What if you have no idea how to achieve your goal. I set alot of big goals and alot of the times I have no idea on how I’m going to accomplish them. The goal could be a multi million dollar company or losing a lot of weight. The answer is simpler than you think! Learning. There have been trillions of people who have lived on planet earth. There is not a single topic out there that has not been written about. Start reading. We live in the age of information. We have access to such a ridiculous amount of information, and it can all be done via a phone.
Reading is critical to your success. It literally allows you to think bigger. Sometimes we block ourselves to ideas and visions of success. We make a situation much more complicated than it needs to be. We can only think as big as our vocabulary. Reading is the best way to learn new words.
Most of the time when we cannot imagine our selves achieving a certain goal, it is because we are not confident. The reason you are not confident is because you need to educate yourself in the certain area you are setting a goal. For example, when i wanted to lose weight and gain muscle, i read a lot about what the most effective way of losing weight is. My next goal is to start up a construction company that does millions in sales every year. The best way for me to achieve this goal is to learn what successful construction companies do, in order to be successful.
If your not sure what your first step or next step should be, then you should brain storm. Make sure you write down all your ideas. Also, make sure you have fun while brainstorming. There is never a bad idea.
The next step is to take action. Without action a dream/goal is just a hallucination. It does not matter what you do. Just do something. Set out a time in the week where you are going to dedicate a certain amount of time towards achieving your goal. Also, remember that you will not be able to accomplish everything in just one day. It will take time and you will have to continuously work on your goal. Keep in mind that you can never fail, and the only thing that can come in your way is you.
Everyone is always talking about the law of attraction and how you can create anything you want in life. But nobody ever talks about the key to making that happen. Belief is the key. Without believing that something is possible nothing will ever happen. The important thing is not what you believe in, but that you believe in something very strongly.
There are some people in this world with very high iqs but they are living average lives and then there Some people that are very successful but are not very smart, they just believe in something. Everyone has heard of the placebo effect. Placebo effect is what happens when a person takes a medication that they perceives will help, even though it has no proven effect for their condition but it ends up working. Why does that happen. Scientifically, that should not happen right? The reason it worked is because the patient believed that the medication would work. Its not the actual medicine that does anything, but the belief that it will cure you.
If your the type of person that needs scientific proof about everything.This is the science behind beliefs. Bruce Lipton is a cellular biologist, he was studying stem cells back in the 1960s before anyone even knew what it was. He is a pioneer in his field. Everyone believes that genes and DNA is what controls our life right. You always hear people saying i don’t have good genes, that’s why i cant do this or that and they become a victim in life. That’s all wrong, because Bruce discovered that our beliefs are what select our genes and our behavior. Our beliefs turn on our DNA, not the other way around.
What led to this discovery was when he removed the nucleus from the cell. technically the cell should have died, because it was believed that the nucleus was the brain. But The cell worked perfectly even without the nucleus. He found out that the nucleus is just a really big hard drive that holds all our beliefs. We are the ones that record the information on it.
I was exhilarated by the new realization that I could change the character of my life by changing my beliefs. I was instantly energized because I realized that there was a science-based path that would take me from my job as a perennial “victim” to my new position as “co-creator” of my destiny
Most people believe that you have to sweat real hard and work 40 plus hours a week to be successful. But I believe that hard work is not necessary to achieve your biggest goals. You’ve got to do creative thinking and have a firm belief in how you’re going to execute your ideas. You will obviously have to put in work, but hard work alone will not bring success.
Michael says, when he is focused on something he wants more than anything. There is nothing and no one that can stand in his way. You must have laser like focus to be the best. When training for the Olympics Michael would swim every single day of the year. He had no days off. The reason he did this is because everyone else had Sundays off. He believed if he worked the extra 52 days that the other swimmers had off, he would have a bigger advantage and he would be more prepared to win at the Olympics.
2. Believe in your self
Michael and Bob’s mantra is Dream, Plan, and Reach. Bob Bowman is Michael’s coach. Bod has been a huge part of Michaels success. Bob taught Michael how to believe in himself.
3. Make meaningful Goals
One of the biggest goals that Michael had, was to change the sport of swimming. He says, in 2000 at the swim trials there were 5 reporters. In 2008, swimming had become the premier sport in the Olympics. The fan base has grown exponentially.
Also, Michael feels as if he has no job. The sport of swimming is his passion and that is why he is so successful.
4. Challenge yourself
Bob told Michael that he could not use the words cant and no. He had to remove those two words from his vocabulary. This helped Michael to realize that he can do anything he puts his mind to. That is how Michael approaches every goal that he has. Make a big goal, have focus, work hard and you will achieve it.
Michael was told by his coach Bob, to visualize before going to sleep, what you would like to happen in an upcoming race and also what he would not want to happen. Michael says, that visualization helped him to be prepared for anything. When preparation meets opportunity, that is when you are successful.
The only way to face and get over your fears is to first identify them.
Then, think of something that you are more afraid of. For example, if you want to be a political figure, but you are afraid of speaking publicly, then think of how it would feel to not achieve your goal at all. Not achieving my goal is a bigger fear to me, because I don’t want to regret anything in life. So find a way to get over your fear. Join a public speaking class. Most of the time when a dream is very important to someone, they will find a way to somehow accomplish their goals/dreams.
Change the way you look at fear. Look at fear as a motivator. So many people in the world complain about not having any motivation, but are very fearful of everything. Use your fear to accomplish the biggest goals in your life.
“Fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” Will Smith
According to Steve Chandler, who is a successful author of more than 30 books, the top 5 ways to motivate yourself:
Live In The Now
Live life as if you may die at any moment. Do not leave any thing up to chance. Do the things that you have planned to do in the future, today!
Create a Vision
You wont know where you are going, if you have no destination in your mind. Make daily, short-term and long term goals! “What you
do is create a vision of who you want to be, and then live into that
picture as if it were already true.” Arnold Schwarzenegger
Keep Your Eyes on the Prize
Focus on what you want to achieve and work hard to achieve it. Do not pay attention to any of the negative thoughts you may have, self-doubt or negative people that do not support you. “When you focus on being a happy and motivated person, that is who you will be” Steve Chandler
Build a Track Record
The things we do in life are not what make us tired; its the things that we don’t do. An unfinished task causes the most fatigue in life. If you feel like you never fully finish a task, create a notebook of daily goals/tasks that you want to accomplish/finish and cross them out after finishing them. The more things you cross out, the more confident you will be in yourself.
Definitely Plan Your Work
“There is one unbeatable rule for the mastery of sorrows and disappointments, and that is the transmutation of those
emotional frustrations through definitely planned work. It is a rule which has no equal.” Napoleon Hill
Basically this means when you are depressed or angry about certain things, that is the best time to plan work and commit yourself to it. 1 hour of planning saves 3 hours of execution. When you plan your life, you will feel empowered.